Category Archives: The Emotional Life of the Toddler

“One study, for example, found that children who showed a secure attachment to their fathers by seeking them out for comfort when feeling stressed had fewer behavior problems and showed more competence in school and peer groups than did those who had an insecure relationship with their fathers.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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“but the often observed increased involvement of fathers in the toddler years may be linked to findings that fathers as a group are more likely than mothers to promote the adventurous exploration and challenging play that toddlers are now ready to join.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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“Kind firmness also reassures the child that the grown-ups know what they are doing and creates a realistic awareness of and respect for the needs of others through the example of the parents.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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“It is neither possible nor desirable to be always attuned and responsive to the moods and wishes of children.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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“Toddlers are scared that displeasing their parents will result in losing their love, and this fear finds expression in the common difficulties of toddlerhood, such as separation anxiety, sleep disturbances, and inexplicable fears.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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“Two efficient strategies to decrease parent and child mutual frustration are creating safe spaces for toddlers that decrease the need for constant parental intervention and redirecting their attention by enticing them away from forbidden pursuits.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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“The English pediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott, who was renowned for his deep understanding of the mother-child relationship, coined the term “good-enough mother” to help mothers and society at large relinquish the fantasy that there is such a thing as a perfect mother—or that there should be.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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“The most important emotional accomplishment of the toddler years is reconciling the urge to become competent and self-reliant with the simultaneous and sometimes contradictory longing for parental love and protection.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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It is hard sometimes to keep in mind the growth-promoting potential of the mismatches between parent and child goals because the parents’ empathy for the child can make them feel as if it is their fault that they cannot fulfill the child’s wishes.

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It is hard sometimes to keep in mind the growth-promoting potential of the mismatches between parent and child goals because the parents’ empathy for the child can make them feel as if it is their fault that they cannot fulfill the child’s wishes.